Confessions of a world-class tomboy:
I was the eldest of 6 kids. Having raised 4 brothers and 2 sons I learned how to throw a football, baseball and basketball. I enjoyed playing catch and being one of the guys. Poker was my favorite card game and when it was dealer's choice I usually picked "Seven stud, nothing wild".
After my last divorce 4 years ago I discovered my femininity. I lost over 50lbs (I had been a slug), quit wearing "guy clothes" and stopped using a ponytail as my only hair style. I started wearing makeup, lingerie and dresses. I had a great time discovering my Venus energy (as my therapist called it). I especially enjoyed the male attention that I had never experienced before. It's really a shame I missed my 20s and 30s but I've been making up for it in my 40s.
Now my problem is balancing the butch with the femme. I like both and would hate to be limited to just one style. However, I think I've discovered my true femininity in that I no longer need to be rebellious and outspoken. Even further, I'm now uncomfortable if those around me are uncomfortable. I'm not sure what the future holds for me but I'm hoping it's relationships with folks who enjoy all aspects of me and let me enjoy all parts of their personalities